Happy Father’s Day, Dad

Oh, and happy birthday, too, while we’re at it.  This is one of those years when your birthday falls on Father’s Day, or is it the other way around?  Sorry I’m late with this post.  I started writing it in my head the Saturday before your birthday, but just now got it down on e-paper.

I was mowing my yard and I can’t mow it without thinking about you.  Every time!  For one thing, mowing to your specs is and was a tough assignment.  You had your standards and I’m not sure we kids hit them very well.  Plus, I think you loved your yard and loved to mow it personally.

My yard is big and irregularly shaped.  It takes a good bit of work trying to get to those nice, straight lines you always liked.  And I always hear your voice telling me not to use the whole mower, but only half to two-thirds of the mower blade should be cutting grass.  Using the whole mower leads to irregular cuts and missed patches of grass.  So, we only mow half of capacity to insure a good cut.

I remember that and try to follow your guidelines.  Even though I have a big yard and this makes a third to a half more trips up and back, I do it your way.   So, I think I got it all.  I even mowed part of my neighbor’s yard.  We have a bit of  a common area, my part is about 15% and he has the rest but sometimes he mows mine and sometimes I mow his.  I think it makes his yard look funny unmowed when my little strip is mowed.  I like to mow anyway, like you did.  Especially when the grass is thick and beautiful like it is now with all of our recent rains.

Just in time for your birthday, a freshly mown lawn.  It’s good to remember.

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Dad and Parenthetical Notes

There’s too much to write about when it comes to my dad.  I’ll probably reminisce from time to time Dad from College? on this blog about him.  What a terrific guy, much loved and respected by us kids.  I’ll write sometime about how I still wrestle with a life cut short, yet lived long.  But for now, a little serendipity. 

Not too long ago, my cousin, Mary Fritts was cleaning out things from her mom’s estate and she found a few pictures and  things related to my side of the family so she forwarded them on to us.  She is Aunt Enne’s daughter and it has been fun reconnecting with her.  One of the items was an empty envelope.  It was empty, but no doubt had contained a letter from my dad  to his parents while he was in the navy. 

I heard very little about his military service. I know it was cut short because of rheumatic fever, resulting in him being discharged early.  He had lots of stories but I just don’t remember them all. Too long ago.  So, what’s so exciting about an empty envelope?Dad's Envelope, 1945  It was mailed from Corona, California, June 15, 1945.   You may not be able to read the envelope, (click on it to embiggen) but here’s what it says on the address:

Mr. & Mrs. J. E. Dorman   (That’s my Mom and Pop)
    Route #1 Box 467         (That’s Home)
        Denison,                      (That’s Heaven)
          Texas                        (Brother, That’s “God’s Country”)

An empty envelope, for sure, but so much info about Dad.  He had a great sense of humor, but unless you were around him at the house, you might not see it as much.  He loved his family, he loved his home town and Texas was the best place to be.  (Still is, Dad.)

My brother and I laughed and perhaps, cried, at the sight of the parentheses.  Dad didn’t write much, but when he did, he almost always had afterthoughts, insights, inside humor to share.  We noted it particularly on the envelopes, or on scratch paper from his desk, or blackboards in class rooms.  It shows how he was thinking as he wrote.  There’s so much more behind these words.  They cannot possibly contain the whole of the message. 

I have to admit, in my own writing, I see the same habits. I use them a lot (perhaps it shows a latent ADD trait?) when writing notes to friends and emails.  In fact, sometimes I have parentheses inside of parentheses inside of … well you get the picture.  I don’t recommend it as a writing style, I just find it difficult to stop. 

So, thanks Mary, for the real treat. You blessed us with your kindness in forwarding these things on to us.   And here’s to you, Dad.  It’s only an empty envelope, but it is so much more.  We miss you bunches,Dad, me and Jeff but know that you are enjoying the life, eternal, and as you always sang “joy unspeakable and full of glory”.  We certainly have yet to fancy that fullness of Glory, but we’ll do it, and see you, one day.

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Lyn’s 50th Birthday. Yahoo!!

Lyn greets her admiring followers So, one of the nicest people ever, in the whole wide world, just turned 50. I’ve known her for probably 20 or more of those years. She has been on staff at Hope Chapel, helping keep the place running, helping keep the children’s ministry operating smoothly, loving people, loving kids, …  well, doing everything in the most joyful, loving way imaginable.

The Hope Chapel office was always bright and happy when she was around. (Come to think of it though, that’s the way I think it is, anyway but she made it better.)   Now, she works at the Texas State School for the Blind. I haven’t been to her classroom, but I suspect it is an equally joyous place. (in that frantic, laughing way). I’m glad she is there and using her gifts to bless the students and the faculty.

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Aunt Enne (Julienne Rucker)

We (the Dorman/Rucker families and Texoma country)  lost a treasure when Aunt Enne passed away last Friday (May 1st). It is a big, big loss to us all. Very few are as kind, effervescent, involved in the community and out and out good people as she was. Aunt Enne I see the picture for her obituary and I am immediately reminded of the too few times we traveled to visit the family in Texoma land to enjoy the one and only Enne.

She was the youngest of my dad’s three sisters. (Dad was the youngest of the 7).  When we visited grandparents in Denison, TX, we would see Fred and Enne at their house on Lake Texoma. The picture of Enne reminds me so much of grandma Dorman, those eyes, that chin and  nose – so much Grandma in there. Both were so warm and welcoming, so cheerful about life, or at least that’s my memories. Enne would tell us stories about her kids, then listen to ours with rapt attention and laugh and make us laugh at all the funny events. She was not a comedian, but everything that was funny was even funnier with her.

Her obituary lets us know how she was known and how active she was in the community: “Meme” was known as a fun and loving friend, mother, grandmother and great-grandmother. She could also be very protective. For example, she was President of Peabody Elementary PTA, the McDaniel Jr. High and then Denison Senior High and when her children went to all three schools, she became President of the City Council PTA. “Shorty”, was small in stature but big in spirit.

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Daylight Savings Time Rant

Ok, so I don’t like DST.  I’ll admit my prejudices up front.  I have reasonable objections on the most part, I think.    I don’t recall many people who think it is a good idea.  I have no idea who is responsible for making this happen, other than an act of congress and we all have different ideas as to whether they know what is going on or not.

I am a morning person, I like getting up early and getting ready for the day.  I love the back half of March because the early sunrise seems to make Spring deliciously enjoyable.  It just feels like spring.  For the last decade or so, it  may have been my favorite time of year.  Now, moving the date up to the first weekend in March has stolen most of those enjoyable mornings.  I consider this a theft of my mental well-being.

Since my wife and I have been leading worship most of our lives, we find that our worship team in specific, and churches in general are among the first to be “punished” by this change.  We are among the first to muscle it up and deal with the lost hour. We start preparations and begin our services an hour earlier, leading a smaller gathering of worshipers who somehow remembered to set their clock ahead, but find it harder to set their alertness ahead.   It’s only an hour!  You finally get used to it.  What’s the big deal?

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